Wednesday, 03 December 2008

• Saving Face....

  Have you ever been in a difficult situation where all you wanted to do was escape conflict? Or maybe you were confronted with something that you really don't want to take responsibility for because you wouldn't want to be viewed in a certain light? Have you ever said "yes" when you really meant "no"? If you answered "no" to all these questions....then this entry is DEFINITELY for you. haha.

  Lying is: Bearing false witness, characterized by untruth, the deliberate act of deviating from the truth, falsification, misrepresentation, to make an untrue statement with intent to deceive.... 

  Out of all the defense mechanisms out there. I think that lying is the most popularly utilized. But why? Why can't everyone just be straight and truthful with everyone? Why can't there be a universal "trust" in the world? It would make life a whole lot easier....I admit that it would have made mine a WHOLE lot less painful growing up. People have their "reasons" as to why they lie. I think it's mostly to save their own self-image/reputation. (Only they don't realize that if caught in a lie, it damages their reputation so much more).

  We lie for fear of conflict

  Personally, I don't enjoy conflict and I don't really know anyone who does...(I guess people who are studying to become lawyers do, because they'll have to face conflict throughout their career). But for all the rest of us--conflict is not a fun thing. I used to try to avoid conflict because I couldn't stand the frustration that "something's wrong" between me and another person. If I had it my way...life would be sunshine and roses and nothing could ever go wrong with anyone. But...that's not reality. Having conflicts and being able to work through them is what makes us all stronger individuals. And lying to escape conflict, only makes things turn into a BIGGER conflict. Rather than just dealing with the truth and starting the resolution from there.

  I want to add more to this topic, but have to get ready for work~so I will touch more on this later

   

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